Poverty has always been an on going dilemma dealing in most countries. I’m not sure if there are any countries that have not undergone poverty. Especially now during the recession many people have been laid off and are unemployed. The amount of single mothers has increased leaving many more empty stomachs. Marriages really need to pull through during hard times, not separate and move on. I really feel like marriages will help decrease poverty because then spouses will be extra motivated to work and put food on the table. It’s hard during these times though because landing a job is ridiculously hard right now, especially if you need to provide for a family.
Food stamps and welfare are a form of money for people with no to little money so they will be able to eat. They have to have a certain low percentage of income to apply and receive welfare. I think our government did a great job with designing the welfare system so hopefully America won’t have a poverty problem. Unfortunately, poverty will remain an issue for an unknown amount of years. It is an unhealthy epidemic and hopefully other countries will be able to rid their poverty problem as well.
Luckily, there are donation funds to give money to countries with major poverty problems. An adoption system is also set up, so people not living with poverty problems can give good lives to the children. Many celebrities do both of these things. You always hear in the media how another celebrity is adopting a child from a different country. Look at Angelina and Brad, they have a child from just about every race, I’m glad they are color blind when it comes to race.
Wednesday, July 14, 2010
Mom's Work
Do you even realize how much women do in terms of household work? Do you know how much your mom does? Women do over 2/3 of the household work. Statistically, women do as much a 14 hours of household work during the week, while men do a mere 90 minutes. After a couple is married, the woman does twice the household work of the man. I think this is absurd. Men pretend they want women to do the majority of household work because they are better at it, fact is, women are only better because they’ve had more practice.
Statistics say that men who do more house and child work have a better sex life with their wives. I completely agree with that. Women who already have a full time job have to come home to cook, clean, and take care of the children. That’s a lot of work, a full time job plus an extra 14 hours of house and child work. I don’t blame women for being too tired to have sex after that much work. Of course it would be helpful and make women more willing to make love to their husbands if they are helping.
All my life I’ve wanted to have a family, I want to be a stay at home mom and raise my children. I love children as it is, and if they are my own I can only imagine how much I will love them. Cooking and cleaning however are not my best areas. I hope my husband will be rich so we can hire a cook and a maid. I’m sure I’d be able to adapt to learning how to cook and clean, but maybe my husband could help out. If he cooked I’d gladly take care of the children and clean.
Statistics say that men who do more house and child work have a better sex life with their wives. I completely agree with that. Women who already have a full time job have to come home to cook, clean, and take care of the children. That’s a lot of work, a full time job plus an extra 14 hours of house and child work. I don’t blame women for being too tired to have sex after that much work. Of course it would be helpful and make women more willing to make love to their husbands if they are helping.
All my life I’ve wanted to have a family, I want to be a stay at home mom and raise my children. I love children as it is, and if they are my own I can only imagine how much I will love them. Cooking and cleaning however are not my best areas. I hope my husband will be rich so we can hire a cook and a maid. I’m sure I’d be able to adapt to learning how to cook and clean, but maybe my husband could help out. If he cooked I’d gladly take care of the children and clean.
Sunday, July 11, 2010
Sexual Identity
Heterosexuality, homosexuality, bi sexual, what is the proper sexual identity?? Of course in today’s society, heterosexuality is the “norm.” However, homosexuality is beginning to become more normal. In some states, homosexuals are allowed to get married. I’m not homophobic at all, but I would prefer no PDA, although, I don’t like seeing PDA from heterosexuals either. All together, I prefer what couples do with each other to be concealed behind closed doors.
Is bi sexual really a sexual identity? Sure I see girls make out with each other when their drunk, but does that necessarily mean they are into each other? How can you not know your own sexual orientation? You either like girls or boys; I just don’t understand how you can’t know. Can’t it be unhealthy to go from a boy to a girl? I would think you’re more prone to have an STI or giving one to your partner. I’ve never known a bi sexual, the closest I’ve come to one would probably be drunk girls, or the TV show Tila Tequila was on where she chose from a group of boys and girls to find “love.” That was probably a publicity stunt, so I don’t know what to think of bi sexuals.
I also hate the mean words associated with homosexuals. A lot of people use the word “gay” to describe a shirt looking bad or funny, but that can be really hurtful to someone who has a gay sexual identity. I used to use the word gay, but after I realized its various terms I stopped. “Butch” and “dike” are words primarily associated with lesbians and neither of those words are nice. I hope one day people won’t be judge mental and everyone will be accepted for who they are.
Is bi sexual really a sexual identity? Sure I see girls make out with each other when their drunk, but does that necessarily mean they are into each other? How can you not know your own sexual orientation? You either like girls or boys; I just don’t understand how you can’t know. Can’t it be unhealthy to go from a boy to a girl? I would think you’re more prone to have an STI or giving one to your partner. I’ve never known a bi sexual, the closest I’ve come to one would probably be drunk girls, or the TV show Tila Tequila was on where she chose from a group of boys and girls to find “love.” That was probably a publicity stunt, so I don’t know what to think of bi sexuals.
I also hate the mean words associated with homosexuals. A lot of people use the word “gay” to describe a shirt looking bad or funny, but that can be really hurtful to someone who has a gay sexual identity. I used to use the word gay, but after I realized its various terms I stopped. “Butch” and “dike” are words primarily associated with lesbians and neither of those words are nice. I hope one day people won’t be judge mental and everyone will be accepted for who they are.
A Fat Rant
Being overweight is becoming a “norm.” Obesity is becoming an epidemic. I think if you are comfortable in your own skin that’s all that matters. I watched a YouTube video call “A Fat Rant,” it was a documentary about a woman who weighed about 227 pounds. She seemed so comfortable in her own skin. I don’t think you should ever be ashamed of your weight and I feel like if you had a real problem with it, you’d try to fix it. However, she is a 227 pound young woman and she couldn’t have seemed happier.
Obviously many factors occur to make people overweight such as eating too many sweets, or not getting rid of baby fat, but she made it clear that it’s just a number and nobody other than you should worry about what it is. If you have to shop at a clothing store that goes up to size 5x, who cares?? I’ve always thought that getting a size that fits is better than getting a size that looks skin tight, even if the one you have to get seems bigger than u expected.
The media has had a huge part on how women are supposed to look. The fact is, everyone is different with different bodies and different body types and nobody should look the same. How weird would that be, if everyone looked the same? I’m so glad this brave woman could post this and be comfortable in her own skin. I’m really impressed with how she publically broadcasted her feelings toward being overweight. She is a role model for many young overweight girls.
Obviously many factors occur to make people overweight such as eating too many sweets, or not getting rid of baby fat, but she made it clear that it’s just a number and nobody other than you should worry about what it is. If you have to shop at a clothing store that goes up to size 5x, who cares?? I’ve always thought that getting a size that fits is better than getting a size that looks skin tight, even if the one you have to get seems bigger than u expected.
The media has had a huge part on how women are supposed to look. The fact is, everyone is different with different bodies and different body types and nobody should look the same. How weird would that be, if everyone looked the same? I’m so glad this brave woman could post this and be comfortable in her own skin. I’m really impressed with how she publically broadcasted her feelings toward being overweight. She is a role model for many young overweight girls.
White Privilege part 2
Apparently no matter what color you are, black, red, orange, or yellow, you will always believe that “white privilege” exists. The only group of people who may never believe that term is true are white people; however, every white person has experienced “white privilege” at least once in their life. My blog entry below goes more into detail about this term and my thoughts. Can it really be true that all other races want to be white? I find it rather humorous because white people are always trying to look dark. You always see white people laying out at the beach and obsessively going to the tanning beds.
What if a young white man grows up in the projects, do u still think he will get the “normal” “white privilege” white people get if they are from a rich neighborhood? I’m not sure I think so. Perhaps if it’s a white man verse a black man on a crime, do you think the judge and/or jury would automatically racial profile their opinion? They might do that. I feel like color is overrated and I just wish everyone were completely color blind so no one felt the need to be judge mental.
When I go out on the weekends, one of my favorite things to do is meet new people. I don’t care what color anyone is, I’ll go up to anyone and introduce myself. I think everyone needs to look beyond the surface and use the cliché sentence of you cant judge a book by its cover. Many people thought that after we had a black president a lot of racism would change; however, in a way I think it’s gotten worse. I sincerely hope one day America will rise above color and treat everyone with the same privileges.
What if a young white man grows up in the projects, do u still think he will get the “normal” “white privilege” white people get if they are from a rich neighborhood? I’m not sure I think so. Perhaps if it’s a white man verse a black man on a crime, do you think the judge and/or jury would automatically racial profile their opinion? They might do that. I feel like color is overrated and I just wish everyone were completely color blind so no one felt the need to be judge mental.
When I go out on the weekends, one of my favorite things to do is meet new people. I don’t care what color anyone is, I’ll go up to anyone and introduce myself. I think everyone needs to look beyond the surface and use the cliché sentence of you cant judge a book by its cover. Many people thought that after we had a black president a lot of racism would change; however, in a way I think it’s gotten worse. I sincerely hope one day America will rise above color and treat everyone with the same privileges.
Thursday, July 1, 2010
White Privilege
I feel like being white definitely gives me certain privileges in life, politically, socially and economically. Being young, tall, blonde and female give me even more privilege. The amount of disciplinary action I have encountered at school and with the police are lesser than those of my colored counterparts, especially males. Women, especially white women are able to flirt their way out of speeding tickets, gain sympathy and privilege from men and use their sexuality to gain access to what they want. When it comes to employment and opportunities in the labor market, I have never been turned down at a job interview and I have always gotten hired on the spot. Even when I attended high school, no matter how poorly I did on tests or quizzes, I always passed my classes. I would classify all of these examples as white privilege.
I’m sure that if you are of color, you are prone to encounter much more social inequality throughout the course of your life. Hailing a cab, for instance, seems like a miniscule effort to a white person, but can be an arduous task to a colored person because of socially constructed fear that a cab driver may perceive when passing by a colored person. Similarly, with age, drivers purposely don’t stop for elderly people, maybe because they fear if they have places to go that the elderly person could be immobile and take too long to cross the street. Getting hired on the spot at any job is tricky for anyone. I have been blessed throughout my life to not only be hired everywhere I’ve applied, but I’ve been hired on the spot. Unfortunately, I’m sure that many people that were equally suitable for the position were turned down because of their perceived race or ethnicity. For all of the above reasons, I feel that being white has privileged me as a young woman throughout my short life.
I’m sure that if you are of color, you are prone to encounter much more social inequality throughout the course of your life. Hailing a cab, for instance, seems like a miniscule effort to a white person, but can be an arduous task to a colored person because of socially constructed fear that a cab driver may perceive when passing by a colored person. Similarly, with age, drivers purposely don’t stop for elderly people, maybe because they fear if they have places to go that the elderly person could be immobile and take too long to cross the street. Getting hired on the spot at any job is tricky for anyone. I have been blessed throughout my life to not only be hired everywhere I’ve applied, but I’ve been hired on the spot. Unfortunately, I’m sure that many people that were equally suitable for the position were turned down because of their perceived race or ethnicity. For all of the above reasons, I feel that being white has privileged me as a young woman throughout my short life.
Relationships
Ever since I was young I always watched how well my mom and dad got along. They are not only romantic, but they are best friends. When it came to my sister and I dating, we were always taught that we shouldn’t label a boy as being a boyfriend unless he was husband material. Neither of us had a boyfriend during high school partially because the only options were young and immature.
Growing up in this structured household really limited all of my dating choices. Another reason I didn’t have a boyfriend during high school was because I watched my best friend go through endless boyfriends; they all treated her horribly. Watching her experiences made me not one of my own. I guess looking back that wasn’t a good idea because everyone is different, but I didn’t want to set myself up for failure and at the same time I was still looking for a long term thing.
My sister dated the same guy on and off all through college. He was a nice guy, but she’s my sister so I’ll always think she can do better. They got engaged a year after she had a stable job. The engagement fell through, but I couldn’t help but be happy. She’s now 26 and has been dating a guy for a little over a year now. My family and I think he’s great and I really hope that they get married.
As for me, I had my first boyfriend my first semester at JMU, which was this past fall because I transferred here. To my dismay it was a horrible relationship, it literally defined the disaster relationship. We dated for a mere 8 months and it was nothing but lying, obsessing, and verbal abuse. In the back of my mind I think I knew it would never work because I hid it from my parents. I tried to introduce him to my mom after we first met and she didn’t like him off the bat, so I knew I couldn’t tell her or my dad I was serious about him.
Luckily, I am now out of that hole and I am starting fresh again. Relationships are tough especially when you see how others are and turn out. Everyone needs to make their own experiences though and find things out on their own, despite how you were raised. I think I need to date lots of guys and see what I like and don’t like in them to see what will make husband material.
Growing up in this structured household really limited all of my dating choices. Another reason I didn’t have a boyfriend during high school was because I watched my best friend go through endless boyfriends; they all treated her horribly. Watching her experiences made me not one of my own. I guess looking back that wasn’t a good idea because everyone is different, but I didn’t want to set myself up for failure and at the same time I was still looking for a long term thing.
My sister dated the same guy on and off all through college. He was a nice guy, but she’s my sister so I’ll always think she can do better. They got engaged a year after she had a stable job. The engagement fell through, but I couldn’t help but be happy. She’s now 26 and has been dating a guy for a little over a year now. My family and I think he’s great and I really hope that they get married.
As for me, I had my first boyfriend my first semester at JMU, which was this past fall because I transferred here. To my dismay it was a horrible relationship, it literally defined the disaster relationship. We dated for a mere 8 months and it was nothing but lying, obsessing, and verbal abuse. In the back of my mind I think I knew it would never work because I hid it from my parents. I tried to introduce him to my mom after we first met and she didn’t like him off the bat, so I knew I couldn’t tell her or my dad I was serious about him.
Luckily, I am now out of that hole and I am starting fresh again. Relationships are tough especially when you see how others are and turn out. Everyone needs to make their own experiences though and find things out on their own, despite how you were raised. I think I need to date lots of guys and see what I like and don’t like in them to see what will make husband material.
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